You are not alone

The story of the broom stick and the broom, a lesson in the latent strength of unity.

Little wonder like-minded people or people that have something in common gather together and accomplish it - on my mind as i write this is Alcohol Anonymous group (predictably morbid right?)


As I sat at my improvised desk (I had moved location and my particular role in this new location was as vague as could be), I was having a quiet day and decided to indulge in my favourite past time - blog hopping, of course starting from my favorites (sealed lips).

Now, I don't know if it is mere coincidence or if the trend i noticed yesterday is more than a figment of my imagination. People are sha expressive! The funny part is I could identify with a lot of things the ladies were sharing and some more from the guys. In case you are wondering, the trend I am talking about can be described in one word as explicit - gals are not smiling o! Neither are guys but I think guys have not been smiling for a while now so it was kinda good to hear from the non-smiling gals.

The gist that caught my attention the most was how come it is okay to have friends with benefit in this Lagos, to how to make sure you don't fall for your friends-with-benefit. After watching the movie, I started thinking that it wasn't such a bad idea to have a child by a friend who you have friend-zoned just because mr right is nowhere in the horizon....I even expressed my sentiment to a few friends and I remember vividly one of them saying "tah! shut up there. Miss weirdo". And so I did, I actually reconsidered .... then I met like-thinking people in the blogoshpere. It would seem the blogosphere is filled with all sorts - anyways, I always seem to have a laugh whenever I indulge.

So let's talk about the benefits (or lack thereof) of friends with benefits. Is it the single woman's version of legal promiscuity? Is it the next logical step in these our times where good men are far and few in between and a sexually active sister has to survive anyways? Maybe this is an age long practice sef and JJC like me, I am just finding out last and just because it has a 'cute' name (and movie) to tag it that's why we are talking?

My first reaction was to say 'tufiakwa', we must do it right o - marry as second wife if you must but the option of sleeping with someone with no emotional attachment is sooooo unfeminine. We (as women) don't have to join in the emotional bankruptcy that men have been known to indulge in, sometimes blatantly. Having said that, I kinda understand where these ladies are coming from and that put me in a kinda dilemma. I don't endorse it, but then again I am not the relationship version of NAFDAC.

Like one of the bloggers said, to each their own o! I'm not preaching, just saying.#tatafo.com